SAN FRANCISCO DOMINATRIX CARMEN

EDUCATION

Kink has a long history, dating back to our most primal of inclinations. I believe in an informed approach to BDSM, drawing reference and reverence to these often hidden histories. A necessary companion to text is technique. I am regularly taking workshops and courses so that I may further advance and broaden the diversity of my kinky practice. Below are the books and courses that I have learned from thus far in my ongoing sadistic scholarly pursuits. I take the duty of care as your dominatrix very seriously. This commitment to a constant learning coincides with a much greater commitment to your safety, both physically and mentally. I believe it is the right of any submissive to be informed of the knowledge and skill of their potential Mistress when entrusting the fragile yet precious nature of their submissive state.

BOOKS

  1. Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual - Christina Abernathy
  2. Training with Miss Abernathy: A Workbook for Erotic Slaves and Their Owners - Christina Abernathy
  3. Erotic Slavehood - Christina Abernathy
  4. Play Piercing - Deborah Addington
  5. Erotic Knifeplay - Miranda Austin and Sam Atwood
  6. Ties That Bind - Guy Baldwin
  7. Flogging: The Basics and Beyond - Joseph W. Bean
  8. Mummification: Down at the End of Bondage Street - Joseph W. Bean
  9. The Art and History of Erotic Bondage - Jonathan Brazell
  10. Punishment and Power in the Making of Modern Japan - Daniel V. Botsman
  11. FemDom Training of Submissive Males - Vanessa Chaland
  12. The Art of Erotic Hypnosis: How to Mind Play with Hypnotherapy - C. Charles
  13. Woof! The Erotic Care and Training of the Human Dog - Michael Daniels
  14. Advanced Techniques of Hypnosis and Therapy - Milton H. Erickson
  15. Hypnosis - Kyle Faber
  16. The Adult Spanking and Discipline Handbook - Governess Gemma Forbes
  17. At Her Feet: Powering Your Femdom Relationship - TammyJo Eckhart and Fox
  18. Tokugawa Bakufu Keiji Zufu (Book on Tokugawa Government Penal Affairs) - Shintaro Fujita
  19. The Sexually Dominant Woman - Lady Green
  20. S-M The Last Taboo - Gerald and Caroline Greene
  21. Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment - Hardy Haberman
  22. The Ethical Slut - Dossie Eaton and Janet W. Hardy
  23. The New Bottoming Book - Dossie Eaton and Janet W. Hardy
  24. The New Topping Book - Dossie Eaton and Janet W. Hardy
  25. Canes and Caning - Janet W. Hardy
  26. Age Play - Lee Harrington
  27. Playing Well With Others - Lee Harrington
  28. Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé - Lee Harrington
  29. More Shibari You Can Use: Passionate Rope Bondage and Intimate Connection - Lee Harrington
  30. Consensual Sadomasochism - William A. Henkin and Sybil Holiday
  31. The Artisan's Book of Fetishcraft - John Huxley
  32. Different Loving - Gloria and William Brame and Jon Jacobs
  33. The Beauty of Kinbaku - Master K
  34. Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation - Princess Kali
  35. Leathersex: Meaning Aspects of Gay Sadomasochism - G.W. Levi Kamel
  36. The Tax Domme's Guide for Sex Workers and All Other Business People - Mistress Lori A. St. Kitts
  37. Mind Manipulation - Dane Krauss
  38. A Guide to The Correction of Young Gentlemen - A Lady
  39. Lessons in Service - Edmund Lauler
  40. Artistic Purity and Professionalism in the S&M Dungeon - Danielle Lindemann
  41. The Mistress Manual - Mistress Loreilei
  42. Consensual Spanking - Jules Markham
  43. Look Into My Eyes - Peter Masters
  44. Foot and Shoe Worship - Midori
  45. The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage - Midori
  46. Screw the Roses Send Me The Thorns - Molly Devon and Philip Miller
  47. Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage - Shin Nawakari
  48. The History & Arts of the Dominatrix - Anne O. Nomis
  49. Women, SM, and Therapy - Dr. Carol Queen
  50. The Compleat Slave - Jack Rinella
  51. The Master's Manual - Jack Rinella
  52. Roberts' Guide for Butlers and Household Staff - Robert Roberts
  53. Electro Stim Safety - Lady Robin
  54. Master/Slave Mastery Updated - M. Jen Fairfield and Robert J. Rubel
  55. Rope Bondage: Precision and Persuasion with Rope - Scott Smith
  56. Female Domination 101 - Constance Penington Smythe
  57. Intimate Invasions: The Erotic Ins and Outs of Enema Play - M.R. Strict
  58. Ask: Building Consent Culture - Kitty Stryker
  59. The Ultimate Guide to Kink - Tristan Taormino
  60. Medical Play - Tempest
  61. The Leatherman's Handbook II - Larry Townsend
  62. Leather and Latex Care - Kelly J. Thibault
  63. Showing You the Ropes - Two Knotty Boys
  64. Back on the Ropes - Two Knotty Boys
  65. Female Dominance Rituals and Practices - Claudia Varrin
  66. The Art of Sensual Female Dominance - Claudia Varrin
  67. Flames of Passion Handbook of Erotic Fire Play - Robert J. Rubel and David Walker
  68. The Leatherman's Protocol Handbook - John D. Weal
  69. Working at Play: BDSM Sexuality in the San Francisco Bay Area - Margot D. Weiss
  70. Society of Janus: 25 Years - Society of Janus and T. Weymouth
  71. The Complete Reprint of John Willie's Bizarre Volumes 1 and 2 - Eric Kroll and John Willie
  72. Erotic Bondage Handbook - Jay Wiseman
  73. Dungeon Emergencies and Supplies - Jay Wiseman
  74. Mind Play - Mark Wiseman
  75. The Mind Play Study Guide - Mark Wiseman
  76. CBT: Cock and Ball Torture in a Nutshell - Lolita Wolf
  77. Spanking: Erotic Play with Impact - Lolita Wolf

I'll be the first to say it. As you scroll down and down, at a certain point this page starts to become obnoxious. "Did you really read all of those books?" When I began this page, it was in response to seeing videos of harmful and improperly inflicted impact play. I realized that there were few ways, beyond deciphering through the flowery prose of an About page or mechanically long list of activities, for subs to vet their prospective dominatrix. In that span of time, as the list grew longer it became quite evident that I have a BIG kink education fetish. You can find more about my fetishes as well as the kinky skills I'm currently training here. In the future, this page will be less static. I plan on organizing what I've learned into categories so it can be easily referenced by you to find more resources about your interests. Additionally, a lot of what I've learned will be made into blog posts and videos on this site. Have you read any of these books or taken a class from any of these instructors? I love bonding over a shared common interest. In the mean time, happy scrolling!

IN-PERSON & ONLINE COURSES

  1. Cross-Dressing Transformation - Antonia Aerie
  2. Sex Toys - Megan Andelloux
  3. Self Bondage - Purple Anon
  4. Better Built Bottoming - Ava Amnesia
  5. Long Distance D/S - Ava Amnesia
  6. Pony Play - SubMiss Ann
  7. Caning 101 - Claire Adams
  8. Sensory Deprivation: Building a Scene in the Void - Bone B.
  9. Slave Contracts and Financial Domination - Penny Barber
  10. Singletailing 101 - Guy Bennett
  11. Plastic Wrap Suspension - Simon Blaise
  12. Floggers - Bo BlazeImpact Play: Punching - Bo Blaze
  13. Multi-Person Rope Bondage and Suspension - Murphy Blue
  14. Folded: Advanced Beginner Bondage - True Blue
  15. Twisted: Advanced Beginner Bondage - True Blue
  16. Extended: Advanced Beginner Bondage - True Blue
  17. Asymmetric Bondage - Boss Bondage
  18. Sadistic Rope Bondage: Painful Rope Play - Boss Bondage
  19. Foot Fetish - Chloe Camilla
  20. Communication and Negotiation - Bex Caputo
  21. The Dominatrix Archetype - Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D.
  22. Impact Play: Spanking and Implements - Cadence Cross
  23. Don't Be That Guy: Etiquette in the Dungeon - Hilary D.
  24. Belt Bondage - Danarama
  25. Caning: Sensual to Sadistic - Danarama
  26. Dollification 101 - Danarama
  27. Dollification 201 - Danarama
  28. Fast Rope Bondage - Danarama
  29. Figging - Danarama
  30. Mummification - Danarama
  31. Rope Bondage for Sex- Danarama
  32. Toys and Other Insertables - Danarama
  33. Straightjacket Bondage - Danarama
  34. Stockings Bondage - Danarama
  35. Tunnel Plugs and Tunnel Gags - Danarama
  36. Violet Wand and Electrical Play - Danarama
  37. Skin Stenciling - Danarama
  38. Successful Scene Composition - Daniel
  39. Foundations of M/S Relationships - Dan and Dawn
  40. Skillfully Harnessing Anger in BDSM Sessions - Lola Davina
  41. Sexy Bootblacking - Poetic Desires
  42. Needle Play - DottieSkin
  43. Stapling - Dottie
  44. Electrical Play - Dov
  45. Flogging - Dov
  46. Rope Bondage - Dov
  47. Snake Whips - Dov
  48. Mindfulness and Sexuality - Dr. Jenn
  49. Breast Torment Exploration - Cleo DuBois
  50. Collaring Ritual - Cleo DuBois
  51. Down to Earth Negotiation - Cleo DuBois
  52. Play Piercing - Cleo DuBois
  53. Sensual Flogging 101 - Cleo DuBois
  54. Sensual Domination - Lady Remedy Ann Fetish
  55. E-Stim 101: Introduction to Electrosex - Fivestar
  56. Sploshing - Mistress Shae Flanigan
  57. Tickling: From Teasing to Torment - Mistress Shae Flanigan
  58. Decorative Bondage and Hair Ties - Tom Foolery
  59. BDSM Unbound: Kink Without Ties or Tools - Lady Frost
  60. Edging: Orgasm Control and Denial - Lady Frost
  61. Sensual Control in Dominance - Lady Frost
  62. Thinking Outside The Toybox - Master Gabriel
  63. Bondage - Darian Gavin
  64. Authenticity: Loving Yourself, Being Yourself - Master Silver Gryphon
  65. Personal Power - Master Silver Gryphon
  66. The Art of Dirty Talk - Amy Jo Goddard
  67. Domestic Bliss: An Exploration of Classic  Discipline - Miss Grey
  68. Singletails - Sir Valentino Harrison
  69. The Magic of Mindfucking - Daddy Hollywood
  70. Dirty Talk - Tina Horn
  71. Neurology and the Kinky Brain - Tara Indiana
  72. Clothespin Zippers - Flaming June
  73. Verbal Skills Level 1 - Simone Justice
  74. Verbal Skills Level 2 - Simone Justice
  75. Shibari 101 - True Blue and Kanso
  76. Shibari 201 -True Blue and  Kanso
  77. Primal Play - Kalisti
  78. Tax Seminar with Safeword Tax Service - Christopher Kirk
  79. Playful & Painful: Control Moves & Nipple Play: Lamalani
  80. Venus For Men: The Ultimate Masturbation Toy for Penises - Bunny Lampert
  81. Introduction to BDSM - Jiz Lee
  82. How Every Dom(me) Can be an Artist of Tease & Denial - Elena de Luca
  83. Transparency in Authority Exchange Relationships - Slave Lyle
  84. Fuck Gender! Why it's Not About Genitalia - MacDaddy
  85. Grappling and Takedowns for BDSM Play - MacDaddy
  86. CBT - Maitresse Madeline
  87. Feminization, Crossdressing, and Sissification - Ms Madyson
  88. Visual Takedowns - Ms Madyson
  89. Latex Fetish: Wearing, Care, and Feeding - Snow Mercy
  90. The Exquisite Whip Part One: Hands-On Flogging Training - Midori
  91. The Exquisite Whip Part Two: Hands-On Flogging Training - Midori
  92. Dirty Talk - Sabrina Morgan
  93. Hair Play - Arthur Murphy
  94. Hair Bondage - Arthur Murphy
  95. Rope Bondage for Objectification - Ms Nikki Nefarious
  96. Collaring - Sir Nik
  97. Smothered, Covered, Squished & Sat - Goddess Nyx
  98. Bootblacking - Mike Panic
  99. Handcuffs & Shackles - The Pope
  100. Suspension Bondage - The Pope
  101. Bondage Layering - Dante Posh
  102. Catheterization - Dante Posh
  103. Enema Play - Dante Posh
  104. Hood Play - Dante Posh
  105. Nipple Torture Play - Dante Posh
  106. The Business Practices of Pro Domination -  Mistress Cyan and Mistress Precious
  107. Red Cross Adult First Aid/CPR/AED plus Bloodborne Pathogens Certification - Puppy Dog
  108. Basic Bootblacking Kit - Q Tip
  109. How to Polish Oil Tanned Boots - Q Tip
  110. How to Train your Dragontail - Sir Randy
  111. Vibrator Bondage - Colette Rouge
  112. Suspension Safety - Lew Rubens
  113. Gender Trouble: Playing with Trans and Non Binary People - Rusty
  114. Pro-Domme Marketing in the Digital World - Saherah
  115. BDSM, the Law, & Your Safety - Mistress Porcelain & Steven Sandler
  116. English Caning - Sir Nik Santanas
  117. Florentine Flogging - Sir Nik Santanas
  118. Heavy Handed Spanking - Sir Nik Santanas
  119. Brat Play - Barak and Sheba
  120. Knife Play - Barak and Sheba
  121. Body Language - Arden Sirens
  122. Flogging Techniques - Sarah Sloane
  123. Upping the Ante for Bootblacks - Sarah Sloane
  124. Upping the Ante for Boot Tops - Sarah Sloane
  125. Caning and Food Play - John Smile
  126. Dominating Women - Domina Snow
  127. Nipple Play - Domina Snow
  128. Riding Crops - Domina Snow
  129. Humiliation 101 - Juliette March and Aiden Starr
  130. Managing S&M 24/7 Relationship - Cecilia Tan
  131. Submissive Self Safety - Cecilia Tan
  132. Dominance & Submission Basics (Clothing & Orgasm Control / Humiliation) - Terralthra
  133. Bombproof Bottoming Suspension - Cannon and Tifereth
  134. Intimate Connection Through Rope - Cannon and Tifereth
  135. From Floor to Flying: Self Suspension - Shay Tiziano
  136. First Impressions: Pick-Up Play - Maestro Stefanos and Shay Tiziano
  137. Fuck Your Box! D/S for the Rest of Us - Maestro Stefanos and Shay Tiziano
  138. Protocol and Position Training - Maestro Stefanos and Shay Tiziano
  139. Pyro-Passion: Fireplay - Maestro Stefanos and Shay Tiziano
  140. Advanced Position Training - Maestro Stefanos and Shay Tiziano
  141. Advanced Limb Ties - Topologist
  142. Rope Corseting - Topologist
  143. Needle Play - TwoBadMice
  144. Rope Bondage Basics - Two Knotty Boys
  145. Sensual Bondage - Two Knotty Boys
  146. Dollification - Sergeant Major Valora
  147. Foot Worship 101 - Mona Wales
  148. Lifestyle Control - Mona Wales
  149. Sensual Sensory Deprivation - Mona Wales
  150. Judicial Caning - Mistress Wynter
  151. Enema Basics - Ariel X